I wanted to give you a helpful list from Dr. Leman's book "A Chicken's Guide to Talking Turkey with your Kids about Sex." Consider this a follow up from this morning's teaching. If you would like to order the book from Amazon, just click the link.
TIPS TO TALKING WITH YOUR KIDS ABOUT :
1) Always answer the question at an age appropriate level. A good way to gauge this is by responding with a probing question. "Where did you hear about that?" Something to give you an idea of how much they already know.
2) Practice. Think through your answers ahead of time. What are your beliefs and why?
3) Get Feedback. Have your kid explain what you just explained to make sure he/she gets it.
4) Look at Families with Kids older than yours and discuss how you will deal with the same issues when you get there.
5) Help your child see past their limited experience to foresee potential problems. Your kids confidence that 'everything will be fine' may be unwarranted from your perspective. Teach them to see the bigger picture.
6) Be ready - with your facial expressions, with your eye contact, with your gestures, and with your body language - to answer anything. Remember, each time you respond, you are either building trust or ruining it.
7) Read. Get Accurate Information. I'm sure you can imagine why this is critical.
8) Wrap it in the right context. Relate everything about in it's proper context - marriage.
9) Know your Goal. It's about more than just getting the info out, it's about connecting and building relationship and trust with your child.
Here's a link to a helpful article I came across this week that also has some good points on the same topic::
http://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/sexuality/ teaching_children_healthy_sexuality.aspx
I hope this helps. Forward to your own family adventure!
Aaron
Saturday, May 8, 2010
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